Ep 82 Who’s In Your Room?

Both Sheri and Nancy have relocated to new cities, so today’s episode about carefully curating the people in your life comes at a perfect time for each of them. This move is all about new dreams, new opportunities, and a chance to forge new relationships. They’ve invited Dr. Ivan Misner, founder of an extensive business networking organization called BNI, on the show. Ivan is not only a networking mastermind, he’s one of the authors of a bestselling book called Who’s In Your Room — an eye-opening reminder that the people we surround ourselves with impact the quality of our lives.

Ivan shares practical ways we can foster only those relationships that uplift and inspire us. He tells us how to say “no” without being a jerk, the real secret to balance, ways to live a life with margins, and how to become the bouncer (or as Sher and Nance like to put it, the “curator”) of your own room.



  • As Sheri settles into her new life in Napa, now it’s Nancy’s turn to face the moving vans and boxes. Moving can be an emotional tornado, so it’s important to be kind to yourself and create time and space to find your footing.
  • In midlife, deep friendship is less about proximity and ease and more about chemistry, trust and connection. Not everybody should have a front-row seat to your movie.
  • The quality of your life depends on who is in your room, and you are your own bouncer or curator of your own experience.
  • Get crystal clear on the values most important to you in a friendship. Start with your dealbreakers. Nancy’s non-negotiable in friendship is meanness or cruelty. Sheri’s dealbreaker is cheapness.
  • Being intentional about your relationships in all areas is a way to have your own back, look out for yourself, and protect your energy.
  • Create margins in your life. Taking a mental health day once a week or one hour out of the day can work wonders for the soul.


Mentioned in This Episode:


ThePillarLife.com  — Big Salad

Who’s In Your Room: The Secret to Creating Your Best Life, by Ivan Misner, Stewart Emery, and Rick Sapio

Dr. Ivan Misner

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