Ep 86 Turn Chaos Into Calm, with Gretchen Rubin

She’s a voice brimming with happiness and now she’s telling us how, where and why to turn external chaos into inner peace and joy. World-famous podcast star and best-selling author Gretchen Rubin brings her energy and effervescence to the show this week, and she talks to Sheri and Nancy about her newest book, Outer Order, Inner Calm. It’s all about how we can clear the clutter and create habits that support our Spirituality + Happiness Pillar. Gretchen challenges the DreamTribe to start implementing her “One- Minute Rule,” and lays down manageable steps to make more room for happiness.


  • Happiness is not a one-size-fits-all solution. It’s all about self-knowledge and finding the things that suit you as an individual rather than jamming yourself into an idea of what “should” be.
  • Outer order can look very different to everyone. Whether you are a perfectionist, somewhere in the middle, or have all cabinet drawers open at all times, you can find a system that creates serenity and joy.
  • While we can’t control everything in our lives, we can control how we react. There are concrete things you can do that will make you happy.
  • Gretchen Rubin wrote a fascinating book about The Four Tendencies: Upholders, Questioners, Obligers, and Rebels. Knowing your own and recognizing them in others can serve as a helpful guide for the way we approach life and relationships. You can take a free, fast quiz on her website and find out yours!
  • Finding habits that lead to outer order and inner calm has a huge impact — about 40% of everyday life is shaped by everyday habits.
  • Clean your fridge and change your career? Sounds big but the more steps we take to cleaning up our outer world, the more we are free to make huge improvements in our Spirituality + Happiness Pillar.
  • Mementos are more meaningful when there are fewer of them.
  • Thanks to a special DreamTriber for your Listener Inbox Letter this week! It’s all about finding those kindred spirits and going for the experiences that make you happy.

Mentioned in This Episode:

Happier Podcast

Gretchen Rubin Website

Outer Order, Inner Calm: Declutter an Organize to Make More Room for Happiness, by Gretchen Rubin

The Four TendenciesThe Four Tendencies: The Indispensable Personality Profiles That Reveal How to Make Your Life Better (and Other People’s Lives Better, Too), by Gretchen Rubin

The Four Tendencies Quiz

Barbara’s Bookstore

Book Passage


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